Really it just feels more authentic. If people are that angry and insecure there's not much I can do about that. And so it goes on. Frankly in either case Im already in hell. They are very rigid, and usually come with a do this or else consequence.Religions also tend to have hidden, unknowable and unprovable parts which you are not allowed to ask questions about. I grew up with answers to this that included how God has to keep his existence a mystery so he doesnt ruin free will (Free Will isnt even in the Bible; it was added later) or that if we chose him after seeing his power, it would mean less to him. It was wrong to think sexual thoughts. I didn't know there were that many gospels being considered originally. Though Christianity is the world's largest religion, each year many people choose to leave the faith and go their own way. It allows us to truly understand the natural world. (i.e. Throughout history, supernatural beings have been used as a way to explain things that humanity did not understand. In Christianity, reflection is deeply valued. But further than that, this thought caused me to realize, how arrogant I was, to think that my form of small-town Southern-Ontario Catholic Christianity was the only way that people could come to know God properly, when there are billions of people all over the world who reach out to all kinds of higher powers and forms of spiritual enlightenment all the time? In college, I avoided any courses that would expose my lack of knowledge about evolution (I had none, only young earth creationism doctrine) - I was embarrassed enough that it took me a decade of marriage to finally admit to my husband that I had never learned about evolution, and I learned it on my own. I liked having a pattern to live by, it made decisions easy. Some bibles contain entirely different books and writings known as the Apocrypha, which seemed to have been randomly excluded from the modern bible at some point. I've been thinking about making this post for a while but I've kind of been putting it off because it's very personal, but at the same time I think it's important for atheists to talk about the reasons we first began to question whatever religion we were raised in because it's so . Soon, like many new Christians, I found myself embraced by the community, going to church regularly, attending youth groups and summer camps, reading the bible, and praying regularly. But for other people? Now I am sort of agnostic/deistic. Be the first to rate this. It's the kind of site that completely turns me off, even if the gist of what is being argued is something that I agree with. Youthrew out theridiculous Christian death cult. Even if they said it was from God working through them, wasnt I still taking them at their word? It's horrible how deeply I blamed myself for the whole thing, which is so wrong, and so harmful to do. I also saw that creationists were wrong. Im aware of two key places in my life that I feel I got real lifelong benefit through the influence of religion and Christianity. More recently, my friend Jamie Lee Finchs book, You are Your Own had me saying, Yes, that was me too, on every page. And lets make no mistake- no matter how good you are, youre still a bad person, because you've sinned. I tried to console myself with the thought that Christianity only resembles a scam by some sheer coincidence. Religions are indistinguishable from cults. My inquisitive mind couldnt ignore the inconsistencies I was seeing.. No more Christianity? I am a Christian, and will remain so, but I have to agree with what you said. I hope she changes her mind about things though. I can confirm that there are some pretty corrupt churches in Southern Ontario/the United States. Abraham, Ishmael, Isaac,Moses, Jesus and all the Biblical prophets call Him ILAH or ELOH,or ELOHIM. Why Christian Kids Leave the Faith. All Rights Reserved. Even the story of JOB the only man the the whole face of the earth who does it right according to god. Facts can be most clearly seen when one lifts the veils of blind emotion and blind faith and ego-centrism. I was really scared of telling people. But which Christian church is teaching me the right way? Max_remy 04/30/19 . This would have been unheard of in my previous religious communities. When I heard about what other people believed in religion and politics, it was always a warped, negative, misrepresented picture of it from someone who was against it. Around this time, someone outed me to my family, the ones I knew I couldnt trust with my secret struggle, despite how open I was with others. As Southern Baptists, we were conditioned to believe that people choose to be gay. There is no excuse for this bull stuff. A couple of people who hadn't been at the first talk came to the second talk, and one individual in particular got very upset, and started saying that I was sinning, and "demonizing the church" and how dare I say anything negative about the church. It was easier to believe I was failing at having faith than it was to imagine the world wasnt full of the supernatural. I eventually had a very honest conversation with my bosses when my work performance began to fail, and I decided to quit the church and ended on good terms. I was raised in a christian home. The great multitude of starving families and the crying children and god never provides rainwater to grow any crops like he could'nt careless. I'm a Christian and YES i always doubting in god existence WHY god allow my mom to suffer in illness when she was dying and Why my dad get ill and he died and guest what that time I was only 5 years old i live my life with no parents.Now in my 2o's i gave my life to Christ for almost 4 years being a christian reading the bible and praying nothing changed My prayers are not answered even one my prayer is very simple and my prayer is not material thing ..I'm very sad if what day i leave my faith. For the record, everyone is free to use whatever I post on this site in whatever way they want. So it is dangerous for a persons soul to be lost by believing the lies of the churches. Maybe I am innately too rational to fool myself into believing I was actually having experiences with God. Every Sunday I had to perform a "children's focus" where I would sit at the front of the church and all the kids would gather round and I would give a little bible lesson. For some reason that moment was special, and it will remain so for me. But I guess you wouldn't consider it to be an extrapolation, but rather as something that you know from conclusive evidence. Because I needed a new community and wanted to provide one for those like me moving away from Fundamentalism, I co-created The Life After Podcast and Community with Chuck Parson, an old friend from my Christian days. "Jesus loves me, this I know. I also knew that he wasnt the kind of man to sit in a church and listen to someone talking, followed by coffee and scones. Several of the elders at Rockport teamed up to fix our marriage. Now to me, Christians were always the last people on earth who would try to justify sin. This is the 21st century FFS. I strive to not accept any belief just because of the social pressure of many other people believing it (after all, many people believe Christianity is true, but as we know, it is not). After the 9/11 religiousatrocities the time for being nice is over with. Dont let me starve and help me succeed in life. Paste as plain text instead, But why to people leave Christianity? Jesus is one. But it's great to cross paths with someone at a common ground. And yet there were still other personal core values that Christianity conflicted with. The bible is it's own worst enemy. There is no excuse topretend a god fairy might be real or a god fairy was required to magically start the universe. Come back when youre ready. I would rather be friends with people who would love me, regardless of my beliefs. There are great writers today who are leading the way against religion to create a better world and I would say Sam Harris is probably one of the best. Wow, dirwid, Awesome for you that you discovered the truth at such a young age. Their faith is not real. A few months after my son was born, I discovered my wifes account for Ashley Madison, an online dating service for married people proactively seeking an affair. As a new Christian I felt like everyone around me was now family. Of course, I had no clue what it actually meant, but I thought it was the most beautiful and profound words I had ever heard and read. This is the unique name that makes the evil minded people afraid and feel unhappy. Its the acceptance that there are things you dont know, that govern your life. How church leaders asked us to behave, versus how Jesus demonstrated in the scriptures. "Similarly, I also have doubts that human consciousness and abiogenesis could be convincingly explained without some kind of intelligence involved. ", Why do you call your Magic Man "intelligence"? Yeah yeah, God made the whole Universe and he owns it all already, but still you have to willingly give 10% of what you earn to your local church. Fundamentally, morally, and ethically, I cannot follow a religion that would advocate such hate, judgment, and ignorance. 2) Rebuild them with a new mindset. Because there is no God directing my fate, I am fully responsible for making this world a better place. One person messaged me and told me she was disappointed that I left the Christian faith, and I responded by saying, "I'm disappointed too. Zulma Burgos-Dudgeon from United Kingdom on February 03, 2012: Awesome hub. Contributors control their own work and posted freely to our site. I am leaving my faith because of all of these. Music, reading, writing, skiing, bicycling, science, futurism, ect. One Sunday, I clearly remember sitting in church and enjoying a good sermon about the importance of compassion, and helping others in the community. If I had the power to stop something bad happening to someone I loved, I would do everything I could to stop it. We trust you." I don't know whether there is a heaven. Anyhow congratulations; clearly you have found the fire you lacked as a christian. Now I see everything that happens today as perfectly explainable by natural causes. I had angry messages, messages from people who were "concerned" about me, but I also had a couple of messages from people thanking me, for having the courage to openly express what many people were afraid to say. How do I make sense of the inconsistencies? He spent time with the prostitutes, the tax collectors, and the people with the worst reputations, and loved them unconditionally, contrary to the culture they were a part of. I wish I could give you advice about coming out to your family, but I am in the same boat as well. I enlisted the help of a third-party pastor to mediate between the Rockports main pastor, who was once like a father to me, and myself. I used to think along the lines of It sucks that a place like Hell exists, but thats just the way things are. Why I left Christianity . So maybe it should be up to me to fix the church, but it got to a point where I started to realize this kind of hate is larger than just a problem that needs to be fixed, but that it is ingrained into a really big part of Christian culture in North America. When I went to college at a secular university, I took a history of Christian thought course which shook my world, learning how the Bible was written, canonized, etc. Searching for answers online didnt help much either. Viewing Christianity through the crusades only shouws perception of nonbeliervers, rather atheists. I started daring to come up with new problems for Christianity myself and seeing if I could find an answer to them. And I am very happy and grateful to say that I do still have friends that are Christians, and our beliefs and views are very different, but that hasn't had an effect on our friendship. They just love themselves. and I realized I didn't want to get sweaty for Jesus. corruption, abuse, coercion, greed, gossip). We dont have miracles to observe today, so shouldnt morality and love at least be expected in supernatural ways? 3. Weknow a magic god fairy was never necessary for anything. Evolution by natural selection. For what could He possibly consider all this tragedy to be a net gain? I do not judge how people choose to live nor their personal choices. Once that happens it breaks the barrier in any relationship. Also, I've experienced many of what is on your list. Posted on Dec 3, 2021 Former Christians Are Sharing The Turning Points That Made Them Leave The Faith, And They Did Not Hold Back. I discovered there are two fields of religious scholarship. Christianity suppresses knowledge and creativity. It has infiltrated many regions, cultures, and even politics. Truth is my goal. So many church denominations are content to split up if they disagree; people believe so strongly and fervently in their interpretation of the bible they would sooner split up their church denomination than actively dialogue and try to understand one another. Speaking of which, heres another thing I was told Id read the bible. It tookme decades to work outthat the whole thing was a delusion. writing, reading, fascinated by Science, enjoy cooking gourmet food as well as growing herbs. But an innocent baby, who dies before baptism, and never hurt a fly doomed to hellfire. Heres another one that didnt make sense. But somehow I'm not really surprised. Perhaps it may be useful for others. Many church denominations interpret the bible to say God destroyed a city because of homosexuality so therefore all gay people are bad? My decision to leave the Christian faith didn't just happen because of a few negative conversations, or a few isolated events -- my decision was made because I realized (and experienced) that the Christian faith, for many, wasn't a welcome place for the oppressed, and that, in fact, has been, and in many different ways, continues to be, an agent of oppression for many people. I was furious at the thought, especially when we had just gotten back from Ghana and had encountered some of the most blatant and unfair forms of poverty I had ever seen in my life. It's just me and Mrs. MOHO in the house but you wouldn't believe the pressure! Since that decision, Ive never been happier at my progress, and my positive impact on the world. I also got tired of staring science in the face and refuting it for the sake of doctrine and propaganda. Religion told me to distrust the world outside of it, but I see a totally different planet when I use my own eyes. We used to speak as if Gods hands were tied in sending people to hell, but after reflecting I realized that if he and hell were real, he was behind it all, including the rule that people even have to go there in the first place by default. I havent explored this much, but clearly theres a lot to learn here about this aspect of religion, and why it attracts people. Many people in my life would say that they relied on God for everything down to simply getting out of bed in the morning, and I found this weird because I could go a day without even thinking about God and I would be perfectly fine. For a man who deeply values curiosity and connection, and for whom physical touch is a primary love language, this was difficult. I wrote this article to show Christians the reasons why people are leaving so that they might understand where we are coming from. Live a moral life to the best of your beliefs. I like reality because it's interesting and because it's real. I just know that I have had numerous prayers answered, as well as experienced multiple coincidences which I believe are from God. Every time I found a satisfactory or at least partially satisfactory answer to a question, two more leaks would form. My mother and my sisters were great, but who was I meant to be? God does not send any holy person to capture the ppl so they can believe,so the can REALLY BELIEVE!! I'm glad that you found the bullet points useful. I felt like I knew Christianity was logically true somehow (else I would reject Christianity) and I was grateful for being born into a Christian family so that I could grow up knowing the truth. Good article. I still wanted to believe in the Bible, but it was becoming difficult. In hindsight, Christianity was a great set of training wheels for me. While all of these reasons are certainly worth investigating and wrestling with, none of them constitute a valid reason for rejecting or leaving Christianity. I deeply respect the example that Jesus set- who I believe was probably a real historical person, in essence, a "prophet." Huangdi ( the yellow emperor ) is another. I didn't want to lie and say something I wasn't sure I believed in, nor did I want to say what I actually thought, and draw a lot of negative attention to myself. I am disappointed in the churches I was in and how they failed to teach me compassion, and failed to be a safe place for the oppressed and marginalized, but rather continued to be institutions that perpetuated colonialism, capitalism, and patriarchy. This is a statement that resonates with me completely. Okay, I thought, a little confusing, but maybe this is a test of faith. I read her book, Leaving the Fold, which was invaluable in articulating my experience. This post originally appeared on Jessie's blog. If you bring up Christian claims of miracles, supernatural experiences, or words from God, then just consider its equivalent in some other religion. 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