Due to the trach, there is almost no verbal communication & his college classes consume his entire days & nights, rightfully. My beautiful husband died unexpectedly 12 days ago. I dont know how to live ..I see hkm everywere. There arent many nursing homes who will accept someone on ventilator, he was on it until he died. I just feel guilty that in the last 18 months of his life we could both be very volatile towards each other as we both did not know or understand what was happening to him. As soon as I laid down on my bed, both of them started knead on me (on my back and my neck), purring, then fell asleep not long after. You can do it!. Your life is precious to Him and to your family. After this a large bruise formed on the center of my chest and this is when the chest pain began. That doesnt make me suicidal or pessimistic, it makes me, me. The first night he said to me that hed have been very, very sick if he lived. I am lost, lonely, angry, frightened, sad (oh so very sad) and without a rudder. Im sorry you lost your soulmate. Its their way of marking and saying This is mine! Sometimes people have made me feel like Ive become forgetful!! Hey Janet. I met a man who lost his wife. . All I can offer is that you must take time to grieve, and feel everything that comes your way. I lost my husband on September 19, 2021 while we were on vacation. He was suffering for a very long time. Its not much better for me. Friends and family go home to their lives and the death caused sadness for them but for me the death of my husband has affected every aspect of my life. Comfort less. As you know, better than I, the days are long, the nights much longer each & every day. Tom, Yes, the fall was the cause of his death. Blessed are those who mourn, for they shall be comforted Place yourself into Gods hands. I was the only one in the family that would have a thing to do with her. I am going to wait until the end of January to make any decisions about returning to work. Amen, Vicki! Even when my son does things in the yard I say to Steve, its not like youd do it. I am 10 months in and the first days and weeks, I was a walking zombie. Some relief is he is not suffering anymore. I cant find my place to be. Their stories were inspiring and uplifting. Forgive my scattered writing & thoughts. Hed had a checkup in December and was fine. I am devastated life can never be the same. Wed both tested positive on the 16th. I have never been apart from my husband. I realized that this was my new normal. They have there own lives and pull me in when they can. Your cat looks relaxed: Perhaps they are on their back, eyes half-closed, tail mostly still. We were couple friends so are able to share stories. I also had the thought of what happens if I just drive off this bridge. I only have the power to keep going. An ebook (short for electronic book), also known as an e-book or eBook, is a book publication made available in digital form, consisting of text, images, or both, readable on the flat-panel display of computers or other electronic devices. Hi Dee, You definitely have a plate full of heartbreak. We were married almost 27 years. I am so sorry for all you ladies. Since my husband died I feel like Im kind of being forced to reinvent myself, like when I was a teen. Im 6 months out. Judy He didnt tell you about the affair because he was afraid he would lose you and he didnt want to lose you. 7. Although sometimes defined as "an electronic version of a printed book", some e-books exist without a printed equivalent. I know Mike would be terribly upset with me if I sat around being sad all the time. I watched him wither and had to pull the plug. I feel afraid to make friends and feel as if nobody wants to. Its a very difficult journey but it can be travelled. When I wake up now, my hand is clenched like his hand is still there. My sister died 6 days later. We have been dating for a month now. I so wish she would have someone to talk to about how she feels because I cant begin to understand how difficult it is for her. Trying to do the work of 2 in the house is very hard; not just physically but emotionally. I can identify with your feelings howbeit I am a bit behind you and reading and rereading your reply has given me more direction and confidence that there is light at the end of the tunnel. We traveled a lot so we didnt have a lot of friends. Friends say go out, do things. I pray for strength to keep going, surprising bursts of joy to brighten your day, and hope to rise in your heart and spirit. Read latest breaking news, updates, and headlines. I own my own business and I want to sell, I am worn out. Know that you wont always feel this way; you will start to feel more alive and yourself. My indoor kitty will start pulling at his own claws when they start getting too sharp and too long if I do not trim them. Im learning to live with it, but still cant accept it. They were correct. I get it a lot and have had to same thought Well what else am I supposed to do? It was a group of 5 or 6 men. Clean your dog's feet with a wet wipe after going for walks to prevent further irritation. My husband and I did not really socialize, so I have only one close friend. At first, I really needed the companionship. Its the hardest thing we will ever do. Ive moved to a new town and its quite small only because it was all I could afford. You never know what treasures await :-). I am now more accepting of my life without my husband.I miss must of all being told how much I am loved..and having someone to share that love with..my children express this almost on a daily basis via text or emailI am independent but miss that very important ingredient to life..now ready to give out and accept love.I feel I am on the outside of life..I work full time..have many work colleagues but not friends outside of work..my children live interstate..I am blessed to have two dogs and the love which they provide. Im afraid of being alone. Hi Karen I read your comment and felt that I understand how you must be feeling. I desperately wish that I did. I grieve Bobby evetyday and feel bad I did not grieve for dad the same way. a dog is never meant to replace someone we have lost..but there is nothing that reduces the lonliness more that the whirlwind of love when I come home each day.. we already had two dogs although sadly one died shortly after my husband..I like to think they are together..I like you am reluctant to share my home with a stranger.hope life become easier for you as time progresses.. spiralling without cause, control or focus totally adrift and so very lost. Why are cat owners often irrational? Ok, so for educational purposes I won't block your comments at this time. Jeanna my husband also passed away suddenly and unexpectedly while at work on September 8, 2021. Unless you experienced such separation by death they have no idea. The cat was described as never having been aggressive before, so it's difficult to determine why this occurred. Consider her deeply.. but also acknowledge your own needs. I dont know how Im going to do THIS. He died 3 weeks later on the ventilator, I was able to go in at the end but it was to late and he passed as I got there with our four daughters. When my husband died I really needed an ICU for grief. What sort of support do you have? Tell. Here is a list of the more subtle signs of aggression and agitation in domesticated cats. Im loosing my hearing (product of the 60s) so Im not comfortable joining groups, etc, Richard, I also worked with my husband We did everything together his sudden death literally knocked the air out of me.Its been 2 years and I still call out for him I know how you feel I feel left behind He was the person that got meI dont think Im making u feel any better bit at least u know that another person feels like u do Angela. Thirty one-derful years. We will all be surrounded by pure LOVE. God put this on my heart and I wanted to share with you all. Is staying single at my age 47, ok? That way they have a playmate. My Husband past away on February 25 ,2022, he was going in for triple by pass surgery and didnt recover, was on kidney Machine and Breathing Tube Ventilator for 15 days. I am so very sorry for all of your pain, the all-consuming loneliness, the estrangement from families/friends & that youthat anyone, anywhere, ever, must go through losing such an intricate part of themselves. Each morning, I wake to re-realize he is dead & I must continue breathing without the only someone who ever really loved me. Heart wrenching, horrible. Staying in bed until someone finds me and they drag me to the hospital? It doesnt seem possible to me. Donna, That is the saddest thing ever. I have 4 children.My husband died of an aneurism I was so lucky to meet my second husband and we were married for 10 wonderful years. To ever get over this great gut wrenching pain. I am lost and fearful after the death of my beloved husband 3 months ago-I cant believe he is gone. Thanks for sharing that you depend on your two kids whom still live with you. Still hurts like hell and Im terrified of getting old and him not being here with me. Younger one who is 8 got deep bites on the knee and the heel. To the. Have not. You deserve all the chances to let tears come down freely, to miss him, but also love yourself. Sharing our stories is both heartbreaking and healing (to the degree that we can be healed). I do not know but make sure everything is set up for her, money plans etc. With the Virus, the political unrest and being unable to go outside due to the health hazards of smoke, I am living in hell. Joanie, your love reminds me of mine. ). I recently got a new kitten to play with my tom cat at first my tom cat didn't approve a few days pass now there best mates but he's a completely different cat he runs away from everyone and hides under the bed all day. Its okay. I just Share a little about their grandfather then I get too teared up. their lives are miles away so their visit are very much appreciated. If you have reciprocal wills, make sure your name is in the deed. I am really out of my league on this one. He drowned trying to save me, when I fell off of the boat we were on. I work part time so I am getting out and about. I went back to work a little too early bc I was so terrified about my financial obligations but in so doing, I blundered. He took meds for it but still had good days and bad. Some suggest that a cat kneading its owner is a sign of affection and flattery. Like you, I cry everyday. Sleeping, eating, cooking, cleaning. I lost the love of my life 23days ago it was unexpected although he had been ill and I really spent the last 2years caring for him sometimes I cannot breathe and then I will be excepting I get strength from reading other peoples struggles and triumphs I talk to him all the time but to face life without him is daunting so I am following advice I have read ,1day at time but when will it ever get better he is gone. Life just isnt fair at times. I'm a dog person by nature and frankly though I love my cat to bits I find them pretty scary, much scarier than dogs. Rent some rooms out work death insurance fo your husband? That is so sad and I am so very sorry-I lost my husband of 51 years 18 months ago-I know that Christ hears my prayers and is there- Im trying -Every day is a struggle I loved my husband almost all my life and still do with all of my heart-I was 15 when we met in high school-He wrote love letters in each birthday or anniversary,Mothers Day card he gave me through the years-ect expressing his love for me- Im so in hopes Ill get better and will find myself so that I can help others in some way..My husband died with sepsis after having liver failure -I took care of him and he was so sick but still so hopeful-God bless.. Her last words were Ill miss you. We had just sold our home in Wisconsin and were buying a home in Florida.our RV was packed and we were going to live his dream fishing southern waters. (and have plenty of tissues on hand) Im at bluedaisydecorating@gmail.com if you want to email me. Unfortunately, there is no perfect solution to this issue. Like you, I havent any family. Maybe youre an extrovert who needs conversation and company. Its super tough being a single parent. A. The loss of my husband a band after 50 years is so hard. Hopefully, this is normal grieving. Every day is a battle. I too, have lost my husband; just over 2 years!!! It hurts me but my husband told me that the cat couldn't stay any longer as our kids weren't safe with her and I agreed. This is not somewhere I chose to be. Best wishes Linda. A cat has the ability to both calm your nervous system and provide an immediate outlet for fun and play. Express your pain as much as you need to. I sleep 12 hours a day but know its depression, tried meds but dont seem to help. Now Im ready to go join them!!! But my Dad is gone and so is my husband. Logically I know that I must forge on but wow, I have to learn how to navigate the new normal and somehow swallow the bitter pill of doing it without my Hero. So much to do and learn when you feel your weakest. An estate lawyer can help you sort out the finances and deal with the paperwork filing. Ive been checked for any heart problems but everything is good. There's no cure, but medication may help control the symptoms.". I dont have any friends or family and live in an apartment that doesnt except pets. I try to keep busy having lost my husband in February but at the end of the day, I come home to an empty house. Thank you. The password reset link has been sent to your email: Follow the steps below to reset your password. I would love help in coping with this news: my husband of 52 years has just been diagnosed with stage 4 lung cancer, and given about a year to live. Focus on the good times and honor him. My husband too died quickly. Carry on your husbands beautiful legacy by telling your grandkids stories, showing pictures, maybe even videos. Young love is very special and I believe it only happens once. I pray Gods very best for you. I can see why returning to work was difficult for you. Trimming a cats nails can be a critical part of health and grooming, especially for indoor cats that dont encounter enough rough surfaces &/or use scratching posts to keep their nails properly trimmed and slightly rounded/dull on their own. Im a mess. I walk my dog, alone. Know that youre doing the best you can, there are no hard and fast rules or no handbooks/textbooks for us to learn from. What I realize is there are always going to be firsts. This is the first March 29, 2021. You are not alone. We were never married tho my prior soul mate and I were, so I had to deal with the hospital on that too which just made it all worse, because he was so young as I am and feel like it, as we had no living will or life insurance. I am frightened and force myself to go out some but I think friends just want to go on with their lies because thru these months, they had to deal with both of us and his diagnosis and the ugly part of his dying. You have to do that also. I lost my fiance to cancer on February 6 2021. Life was beyond anything I could have ever imagined and now it just feels like Im pushing through molasses every day. Losing a spouse is a very different and torturous type of loss. He prescribed medication. I dont know the circumstances of his death but I hope you get the closure you need. Other health issues my husband had dealt with over the past 2 years weakened his immune system and he simply was just not strong enough to get through it. I love my brother and missed him and my husband. I miss him terrible, with all my heart. Social Security will require the original if you want to pull his SS benefits. 1 childhood public health problem reported each year, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=h0_C50VSgeg. My wife was only 38 she had a heart defect we found out about 5 years ago. Karen, When he dies, you should be able to pull his social security. Hed been diagnosed with melanoma 2 years ago and so Ive been grieving privately a long time. More often then not, the cat may have been abused as a kitten or even still is. I would've agreed to the point of view that owners might have done something to provoke the cat for it to attack had I not been attacked by my own. Treat yourself or a loved one to a subscription - the gift that keeps on giving! He was healthy and then suddenly deteriorated from melanoma in his bone marrow and passed away in four very difficult months. I hate the quiet. Our house payment is over $1600. Myself and our 11 & 15 year old watched him collapsed. I. I still do nothing but sit in the house. We are all here for a reason, and it wasnt just to be someones wife. We met when we were 12 yrs old and I remember asking God for him to notice me like I noticed him. Your email address will not be published. Joanne, How did u manage your feelings leading up to the one year? Was your husbands death expected? Tried online dating since that was how I met my fiance. Told him Id have taken care of him around the clock, then he said live your life and was gone. Valentines Day was the last holiday he was here to celebrate with me. I realize Im blessed to have what I have and have managed to maintain it all for the past year. I know you are older but I think 50s is very young to lose a husband. Many of the behaviors cat owners take issue with are actually rooted in evolutionary instinct. I too have spoken to two Mediums. With covid no funeral, no closure. The uplift music. My cat, Simba loves kneading my stomach when I lie down to relax on the couch. I couldnt even follow his wishes and bury him next to his daughter because we failed to get life insurance because we couldnt afford it. My husband died 2 years and 6 months ago, I still cant come to terms with living alone. He really was declining and he had requested that if he couldnt breathe without the vent, he wanted to die. 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